Porn!

Is not rape-lite.

As, apparently, Taslima Nasreen would attest. She’s apparently of the belief that it has “many harmful effects”, including increasing rapes (nope), encouragement of various forms of dehumanization and sexual crimes (no proof include with this, of course), and hindering healthy relationships (too much wrong with this to sift through it in one parenthetical phrase). Oh, and porn is exclusively for mens’ pleasure– Which is actually completely true, if you count female-identified people who were assigned female at birth and have complete female anatomy that they were born with and do not desire to change as men, in which case you’re either the least gender-essentialist person I’ve ever met, or you’re just plain daft. Also, any woman who supports porn is essentially just saying that they love to be objectified, and any man supporting porn hates women. Taslima, feigning what I think might be some bizarre attempt at righteousness, states “I do not have to support this.” She seems to think that such an idea is bold and rebellious. Of course, she failed to realize that a good deal of porn users are fine with the concepts that women are people and rape is bad, and they can believe such things without including them in a screed against porn.

After her cavalcade-o-blanket-statements, Taslima goes on to redefine porn. Or, well, use the definition that someone else did when they wanted to redefine porn. In essence, ‘Erotica’ is the stuff she likes, ‘Porn’ is that icky filthy smut everyone else likes. I find it amusing that while most of the responses tended towards “you can’t just redefine porn”, mine went more “well, seems like I like porn no matter what way you spin it!”

Of course, I cited claims in my response. This launched it into moderation hell, and it seems at this point that it’s never coming out. I put a lot of anger into that response though, and I do still have the text, so here it is:

Holy uncited claims, batman!

I, for one, love porn. In fact, I love porn even by your definition of porn! Material that combines sex and/or the exposure of genitals with abuse or degradation… yep, pretty much 99% of what I watch. In fact, if they didn’t look like the kind of sites that are crawling with viruses and such, I’d love the kind of sites you listed too. BDSM and the like are just the tops, really. Oh, and I’m female, of course.

I’d love to hear your reasoning for why I like BDSM, though, along with being the subbiest of subs. Am I seekritly a misogyistic man on the inside, or do I just hate myself for being female? Have I been brainwashed by my male oppressors? Clearly it’s one of these things, because according to you, those rape porn sites are all for icky men exclusively.

Except for how, you know… that’s just baseless bullshit. You realize that a very high percentage of women have rape fantasies, correct?

Granted, you’ve probably heard that, and denied it because it didn’t fit your views of women/all of those women were brainwashed into not knowing what they like/they’re like house slaves/etc.

Women must be so damned fragile and stupid from your view. We can’t even wrap our heads around how we like sex, apparently.

Oh, and for the record, women who have rape fantasies and watch rape porn don’t actually want to be raped, and people aren’t completely shocked to find out that sex isn’t like it is in porn (save for some amateur porn). Just as we can play violent games without ever wanting to be in such situations, we can watch porn without ever expecting or even wanting such things to really happen. People really aren’t that stupid, not even when they’re caught in the grip of Teh Evil Seckz.

Lots of anger.

Why lots of anger?

Because having words put into my mouth (“we love to be sex objects”) and thoughts put into my head (You know, how I don’t actually like porn since I’m female) pisses me off. Because having someone declare that either the kind of porn I like makes me a misogynistic man and a rapist, or that I’m wrong about thinking that I like that porn, is degrading. Hell, it’s dehumanizing- something she herself decried porn for doing. On top of all of those things, which I take quite personally, there’s the added offense of refusing to cite any reliable sources– and in some cases, no sources at all– and then claiming to be correct. Claiming that she doesn’t need to cite sources– if anyone doubts her, they can just look it up. That is an attempt to present opinions as facts, to cover the truth and hinder the ability to find it. It is intellectual dishonesty, and to see that coming from such a celebrated writer is appalling, honestly.

Now then, back to the actual integrity of her claims, and my resulting anger. After she redefines her words and claims that no porn stars actually want to be in porn, as it is 100% woman hating dehumanization, she finishes by stating that men (remember, the only people who watch porn) are so hooked on porn, they actual elect to watch it in lieu of having sex. I’m going to assume that this is for the same reason that whenever I watch the Food Network, I never want cook or go out to eat. Also, I find it interesting that porn simultaneously kills your appetite for sex and makes you a serial rapist. The only way I could see this being feasible is if watching porn created an evil clone of you that siphoned out all of your sexual energy and used it to fuel evil rape-sprees, as you sat desperately hunched over redtube, ignoring the advances of your partner. Actually, that sounds like it’d make a great plot for a porno. Somebody get on that.

After this lapse-o-logic, Taslima ends with links to three rape porn sites. A word of warning– I don’t recommend clicking them, even if rape porn is your thing. There are actually no videos on that site; it’s a bizarre gimmick in which you click the still of one video, that takes you to another list of videos on another site, you click a still there, it takes you to another site, you click another still… and on, and on, until you end up at the first site in a big loop of frustration. I can’t think of any legitimate reasons that a website would do this, so there’s likely viruses abound. The fact that Taslima linked into what is likely Where Unprotected Computers Go To Die aside, there are a ton of problems with those links, a few of which I touched on already in my comment to Taslima, but I’ll restate them anyways.

First, no, those are not good representations of all porn, or even all BDSM porn. Those videos are a rather specific category, and cater to very specific fetishes.

Second, no, the people who watch videos like that are not sociopaths. The women are not self-hating. For women, it’s mostly a self insertion fantasy. And no, for the love of non-existant god, that does not mean that those women want to be raped. Nobody actually wants to be raped.  Sexual fantasies and actual desires are very different. From the mens’ perspective, no, they are not watching things like this in order to subdue their desire to actual go rape people. That is an insanely insulting thing to imply– that the people who make and enjoy rape and BDSM porn are all sadistic and psychotic, and such porn is doing a necessary good to quell their evil desires. If you actually believe this, well… first off, I must extend a hearty “Fuck You.” Seriously, talk about dehumanization. Second, when’s the last time you watched a horror movie because you secretly desire to be murdered? The last time you played a violent video game to keep yourself from killing someone for real? The last time you watched Titanic to keep yourself from jumping on a cruise ship in hope of it sinking?

I’m going to go out on a limb here and say “Never.”

Now then, third. No, sweet evil Jesus, the videos on these sites are not of actual rape. Similarly, when you see a video of a girl wearing a plaid skirt and pigtails being fucked on a desk in a classroom after a conversation that involved doing anything to raise a grade, no, that’s not actually a schoolgirl having sex with her teacher. It’s actors. 

Of course I must be fair and admit, some porn videos do show legitimate rapes. This is not just, or even especially, in videos with rape in the title though; there are, sadly, videos of all sorts that include actors who were coerced into doing their role. The answer to this isn’t to say “ban all porn!” or “ban specific porn!” though. The answer is to avoid porn by companies with bad reputations regarding consent, and opt for porn by other ones instead. Oh, and going by the logic “well, it looks like rape, let’s assume it was real rape!” is just damned silly. Such videos are, y’know, illegal, You aren’t going to find them by the dozen when you type “rape porn” into google, and a self-respecting company isn’t going to accept an iffy video.

To finish off here, I can’t help but go over some of the comments in support of Taslima. Or, well, one specific type of comment.

It goes something like this: “Wow, say that porn is bad and all of these evil men get mad at you for trying to make it so they can’t objectify women any more! Good for you Taslima!”

Let’s see, that’s… pretending that women don’t exist, combined with the idea that we’re mad about not being able to objectify women, the idea that porn = objectified women, the refusal to actually acknowledge the arguments of others, and congratulating someone for writing something baseless and full of dishonesty… I’m pretty sure I just won Terrible Uninformed Comment Bingo.

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