Short answer: No.
Long answer: Okay, it’s a bit trickier than that.
In an ideal world, there wouldn’t be anything ‘for men’ or ‘for women’, because ideally there would be perfect equity and it wouldn’t be possible to decide if something was ‘for men’ or ‘for women’.
Anyways, that doesn’t exist. As a result, there is indeed an awful lot of ‘this is for men’ and ‘this is for women’ going on.
For the record, at the moment I’m mainly thinking about television.
Also for the record, the majority of television is aimed towards men and written by men. If you doubt that, count up all of the shows you know of that have predominately male main characters, or in which the female main characters exist only as sexist caricatures of women that, as far as I can tell, only really appeal to the kind of guys that watch it for ‘evidence’ that women are frivolous and manipulative, and maybe some deliriously stupid women, and compare them to the shows in which female characters actually have major roles and characterization that equals their male counterparts, that don’t exist as the aforementioned stereotypical caricatures or eye candy.
If the second category outweighs the first… seriously, what channel are you watching? Because I’d love to see it.
More often than not though, the first category will be the larger one by a mile. This can get kind of annoying when you’re actually female, so it’s rather nice when there are shows made just for women and girls. Excluding when these shows are made by men and end up being condescending representations of what women should like and therefore complete shit, of course.
Now, is that sexist?
Well of course it’s sexist that women are so poorly represented in media that they have to have shows made just for them to ever see a decent portrayal of women. That should be obviously wrong, because the majority of television should be equally gender balanced.
Except… that’s not what these people are complaining about. They’re complaining that after having everything made for them, they have to deal with one thing that isn’t made for them. At this point, fuck no it isn’t sexist on the show’s part. It’s sexist on your part. You already have a ton of shows to choose from where everything can be about your demographic, you don’t need to demand that shows geared towards women gear themselves towards men instead, like certain My Little Pony fans have been doing.
That isn’t how fixing sexism works. You don’t ask the underprivileged group to give up what they have before you give up your own. If you don’t want there to be shows aimed at genders specifically, that’s fine and noble. But at the very least you should oppose shows ‘for men’ and ‘for women’ equally- don’t just declare that the ‘for women’ shows become for men.
To clarify: We all know segregation was wrong, right? Right. Having, say, water fountains ‘for whites’ and fountains ‘for blacks’ was clearly wrong. If you were to ask me if it was racist for there to be fountains for black people, then I’d clearly say yes.
Thing is though, I’d also say it was racist for there to be fountains for white people. I’d say that there needs to be just one water fountain for everyone.
Whereas the people who complain about women having shows for themselves would probably be thinking more like this:
“Gee, it sure is racist that black people have their own drinking fountains!”
“It sure is.”
“White people should be able to drink from them too!”
“…and black people could use the white fountains, right?”
‘What? No! Dammit, these uppity
womenblacks are trying to take everything from us!”
Hopefully nobody misses the irony in that.